There has been something in the water this last week or so. I swear that everyone has been on edge and there has been one to many bits of drama for my liking. Drama, and flakiness. Recently I have been trying to be in a better mood, staying more positive and optimistic, and apparently everyone knows it, because they are bringing me down! I’m not going to name names, but I feel like venting so here’s some interesting anecdotes from my life:
I met the girl I spoke about last month from a dating website. Everything was kosher the first time I met her. She made me dinner and then we watched some movies. We had a good night, and I left in the morning. I went to see her a second time. This time she was off the next day, so I spent the night and we spent a good chunk of the day together. The night went smooth enough, but the whole next day was awkward and I couldn’t really place my finger on why. Over the next passing days we spoke on the phone and when I brought up the awkwardness she basically went off on me for not being emotionally available enough for her. I don’t know what she was expecting, most people don’t fall in love after two dates. After a couple of conversations, she told me that she didn’t think we were compatible, and we didn’t talk for at least two weeks. Just before midnight yesterday, she texts me out of the blue, and having already deleted her number, I had to ask who it was and she seemed insulted by that. I told her I didn’t think we were going to talk again. She then laid a huge depressing story on my lap about some ex-boyfriend drama and trying to commit suicide. How do I find these women? From there she mentioned having been thinking about me, and how she “pushes people away when she gets feelings for them”. When I didn’t respond to her liking, she reverts back to going off on me for being closed off and having a wall up. I haven’t heard from her again, but if I do I’m not responding. Wow.
A while ago I had a conversation on Facebook with a friend that moved away, but is getting married next month. One day she was messaging me and saying that she thinks she might be coming back to California because her man is a “problem drinker” and she might break up with him. I told her to talk to him and so on. Later she tells me that things worked itself out, and we were talking about the wedding. At some point in the conversation I said something to the effect of “he better treat you right, and if he doesn’t I’m going to steal you!” I laughed, she laughed, and we went back to talking about her wedding. No harm done right? No, that would be too easy. A few days ago I receive a message from her with a threatening tone about “stealing her”. Obviously it wasn’t from her, so the next logical conclusion was that her man somehow got onto her Facebook account. We went back and forth a bit but he was saying that he knows people where I live and that he was going to get them on me and blah blah blah. I took the high road and let it go, was apologetic and all that jazz. Still, I don’t see where there was any threat, and it was pretty unjustified to come after me for an obvious joke. Although his spelling and grammar were horrible, so I’m guessing it was drunk talk. Like I’m really going to try to steal a woman away against her will from hundreds of miles away. Give me a break.
Not wanting to take my first experience as an example of how internet dating will always be, I continued to give the dating website a chance. I started talking to a second girl, and I was amazed to find how much we had in common. I have always had something in common with the women I have dated, although sometimes it was merely physical attraction and short-lived. This girl was too good to be true from the get-go, but I kept rolling with it. She did too, for about a week. When I really started trying to plan something out, she wasn’t giving me too much help. She would continuously communicate with me, compliment me, and say that she wanted to see me, but when it came down to it, nothing ever happened. One night I told her I was going to crash out, and then I never heard from her again. My attempts to contact her went in vain, and that was the end of that. A shame, as she seemed to have so much potential. I haven’t had any luck with that website since, and I’m kind of just letting it ride.
I’m not sure how much I mentioned about my band efforts as of late, but after having been out of FOS for a year, I started practicing with these guys that called themselves “Sinfected”. We made some progress and whatnot, but they weren’t really my kind of crowd and weren’t going where I wanted to go musically so I parted ways. I ran into a drummer from a band that I had played with at a couple of shows when I was in FOS, and we have been trying to get something going. I ended up finding a guitar and bass player, but they didn’t vibe with the drummer, and drummers are the hardest to come by, so I didn’t use them. Another couple of guys have come and go, to no avail. The other day we met a guy that plays bass and I got his contact info, but both times I tried to get a hold of him I didn’t have any luck. People have become so ridiculously flaky lately it’s driving me nuts.
I know it isn’t being flaky, but I had an interview the other day and I was told that I would be called the next week. I ended up calling first and haven’t heard anything back. I realize that people who run businesses and do the hiring are busy with other responsibilities, but I hate the fact that all of the interviews I have had lately have ended up like this… sitting on my hands, playing the waiting game, and not getting any answers no matter how persistent I am.
I was hanging out at a friend’s house earlier today, and one of them was playing Tekken. His roommate decided to start talking shit about how the first guy was playing the game. Saying that he was a “button-masher” (which I agree is common with the Tekken series), and that he couldn’t pull of good enough combos. The guy playing the game was of the opinion that he wasn’t a button-masher but rather very strategic in his movements. The playful argument lasted for twenty minutes or so, and then one guy started raising his voice. Then the other guy, and pretty soon they are shouting about a fucking video game. Next one of them says something about the other being stupid and the response is “let’s take it outside”. This guy was ready to fight over some words over a video game. I couldn’t believe it was happening right before my eyes. They squashed it soon thereafter, but it was a heated nerd rage battle.
I guess I can’t say that I’m not guilty of being flaky sometimes. The difference about what I do when I intend to flake on something, is that I will actually tell the person I have plans with that I’m going to do something else. In some cases I might stretch the truth a little and say that I have something that’s “important” to do to save some face. Either way, I am courteous enough to make sure that they know I won’t be showing up. Last weekend I had plans to hang out with a friend that I haven’t seen for a while. I ended up not going to hang out with him because I was set up on a blind date of sorts with a friend of a friend. I explained this to him, and told him that girls trump homies when you are single. He gave me a rash of shit, but he forgets what it’s like to be single having been married for a long time. The blind date ended up being a wash up, the girl was nowhere near my taste. I was cordial and all, but I escaped as soon as I could. Today, I had plans with the same friend, and then I got an invite to a party of sorts where there was going to be a good “chick vs. dick ratio”. I made sure that it was a go, and then told my friend that I would have to catch him another time. I explained what I was doing and was expecting a sort of understanding response, but apparently it was time for him to change his tampon. He went off on me and I was questioning our friendship by the time the conversation was over. I think I smoothed things over, but then to top things off, the party didn’t happen and I wasted the whole night waiting to find that out.
Like I said, there is something in the water, and everyone has gotten a taste of it. I am seriously over all of the bullshit expectations that people place on others, and yes I am guilty of doing it too. Trying to find my way in this crazy world of ours.
